Honesty is one of the important characteristics in daily life. When I was a child, my teachers and parents told me I should tell truth all the time. However, when I grew up, I realized that telling the truth is not always good for my life. Therefore, sometimes telling lies is done to avoid hurting friends and family and to prevent parents from worrying about me.
First of all, in order to not hurt family and friends, it is sometimes necessary to tell lies. In my opinion, friendly lies have to exist in life because the truth is usually realistic and negative so family and friends usually like to hear positive opinions. For example, when my friend bought an expensive pair of high heels, she was really excited to show me. She would always show me and ask “Is it good?” Actually, I didn’t think so and I thought it was not suitable for her as well, but I had to say it was good because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.
In addition, in order to keep parents from worrying about me so much sometimes, I choose to tell lies. I usually share daily life with my family, but I always tell them about positive events. Sometimes, I have some trouble in my life, but when my parents ask me “How are you?” I usually say that I am pretty good. If I think I can solve problems by myself, I don’t want to tell them. I am always a child in my parents’ mind even though my age is higher than the legal age. They always worry too much about me.
Although honesty and dishonesty are totally opposite characteristics, I don’t think these two characteristics are contradictory. Each individual situation should be assessed to decide whether to tell the truth or not. I hope that we tell the truth in most of our life; however, sometimes, we should tell lies in order to avoid making more trouble and hurting people we love.
Characteristic (noun): a feature or quality belonging typically to a person, place, or thing and serving to identify it
Suitable (adj.): right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation
Contradictory (adj.): mutually opposed or inconsistent